Forgiving is hard. Forgetting Is hard. And dwelling and holding a grudge is even harder.
But, I am wondering, is one stronger, or more of a “man” because they refuse to forgive someone for something mean and horrible that was done upon them or is one a better person for letting go, moving on and forgiving someone?
I understand it would depend on the degree of what was done. Depending on how mean, evil or hurtful someone done unto you. However, how long does one hold on to a grudge. I am a firm believer that people can change, sometimes in a short period of time. They often regret something they have said or done. A sincere apology should certainly mend a relationship.
Sometimes I feel I am to quick to forgive. Since childhood, I have often felt I allowed people to walk over me. I have brought out my inner bitch since maturing and can take up for myself, but I still forgive rather quickly. Although I still have grudges that eat me up inside.
It hard for me to hate someone or to feel ill towards someone. If I don’t resolve an issue, even if I was done wrong, I dwell and allow it to take control of my emotions.
Am I weak for forgiving so easily. For forgetting? For giving someone another chance… sometimes more then one? Or am I a better person, because I can get over it, and allow life to go on?
How about you? What’s your style?
Perhaps we can take a lesson from our four legged furry friends. Dogs forgive so quickly. They remain loyal to owners who abuse them. They remain with friends with other dogs that they have previously fought with. Its amazing to see Soleil forgive and forget so easily.
