How Valuable Are They In Your Life?

The other day I was chatting with a close male friend of mine about a few particular people in my life. I adore him, and always respect his opinion. I always find myself bouncing ideas off him, and getting advice from him. He is wise beyond his years, and is incredibly honest. Honest! He never beats around the bush. I love you Ben! <3

I found myself struggling with my a few particular relationships in my life, and I was unsure of what steps to take next. Ben asked me “ How valuable are they in your life?” In this particular situation, I cherished their friendships, so I decided to take the appropriate steps to make it work. However; I then began to ask myself how valuable each and every person was in my life? Really, I had been examining every relationship I had with every single person since coming back from Cape Breton., but this just took it one step further.

I think I am a good friend. I give, and give and give until I can’t give anymore. I love to be there for my friends, regardless of the situation , regardless of the time or the day. If you want me, I am there! Anthony and I are both very giving people. So giving, that we often get burned and taken advantage of.

So, while in Cape Breton, I was incredibly surprised at how many of my “close” friends disappeared. I get that it was a hard situation, an awkward situation, and no one knew what to say. But there are other ways to be there for someone.

On another note, I was incredibly surprised how many friends exceeded my expectations when I needed them. It didn’t take much. Random texts offering love and support, long distance hugs and random emails. Some took it a step further and were REALLY there for me. I am still amazed.

In the 6 months I have been back in Halifax, I have noticed a huge difference in myself. In my friends and who I really value. I tried letting go of my anger and tried to make amends with those I felt abandoned me in my time away. (Sounds dramatic, I know!) I believe in second chances, working things out and forgiving. So that’s what I did. Clean slate for everyone!

Interesting enough, I put much effort into a lot of my current friendships. I have reached out and tried to connect. One can only give so much, before they realise its not worth it. That what or who we are working for, really doesn’t deserve your time. I had to ask myself and answer honestly.. “ How valuable are they in my life?” I am delighted and incredibly fortunate to say that I have let very few people go. I refuse to invest anymore time into those who are not valuable in MY life. I have other people and things that my time will be better invested. Other places its more respected and enjoyed.


I am a very fortunate person.