While mom was in the hospital for a week a few months back, there was another man in the room next to hers dying of cancer. His family took turns being with him, and left just for an hour or so in the middle of the night to catch some sleep. I had dozed off and had dreamt of playing cards with this guy. While, I have never seen this man, nor did I know who he was, in my dream I knew his name. I knew what he looked like. We were laughing and talking. It was a very pleasant dream.
When I awoke he had just passed. His family had just arrived. I remember feeling bad for this man, because he died alone. But, he didn’t. I was with him. I could feel it.
The day mom passed, we had all been up with her hours before. My sister and brother stayed in the room with her, while the rest of us went back for a nap. I had dreamt again. We were on the beach. ( Mom’s favourite place) The whole family was there. She was well, and healthy. She was beautiful, smiling and playing with the grandchildren. It was a beautiful dream. I awoke quickly, breathing heavy. I knew, based on the feeling that mom was going to pass. I flew over the stairs and stood beside mom. I informed my family of my dream. It was only minutes that everyone was called into the room to be with mom.
I have to believe that mom was in a very special place, with all of us with her. On a beach, enjoying herself, and her family.
These two dreams, a coincidence? I think not.
Since the day mom passed, I have dreamt every night, except last night. Each dream has had mom in it, but none were pleasant. It hurts to wake up and have your mind filled with depressing things and your tummy nauseas. If I dream about Mother, I want it to be happy. I need it to be happy. I hope these dreams are done with, and my sleep takes me places more pleasant. Perhaps the beach again. With my family. With Mom. Until then, I hold on the beach dream, and know she passed peacefully, and that she is on a beach somewhere waiting for all of us to join her.
Wow, this reminds me of when my Father died. We had all gathered to be by his side and we all took turns staying with him for the few days he was in the hospital before he passed. It wasn't until we had all decided to go out to dinner that he passed. We needed to relax. We needed to take a breather. It was a nice time to reflect and remember the good times. As we were leaving the restaurant, we got the call. Even though we rushed to get back to his room, my Father had already passed. I think he wanted it that way. Even though everyone cried, especially my Mother, again, I think my Father passed at the time of his choosing, if that makes any sense. It was as if he held on until we were gone. I've told others this story, and they all told me similar stories... and it's always made me wonder.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, this was a touching post, Amy... thank you for sharing.
Hold on to the beach dream Amy.
ReplyDeleteThe story of your mom's room mate is very moving. I've never heard anything like that.
There is so much more to this world than what we see.
It was nice to read this post. I was wondering how you were doing.
Sybil
I've also known and heard of people passing when they were alone for that one second. Nothing is a coincidence. I've only had two dreams of my mom after she passed, and she was young, beautiful and full of energy in both. The second one was when a girlfriend of mine was dying and the night before she passed, the dream was that she was with my mom at our kitchen table. I can still see her in those "dreams" which makes me believe that it really isn't a dream but more of a vision. And that is your beach "dream", Amy. She's there with you at Rainbow Haven soaking up that sun and having a blast! I love the pictures of your mom (and you) on this blog. She sure is having a blast! Linda
ReplyDeleteWow. Thanks for that, Amy. I'm speechless.
ReplyDeleteVery well written ames, i find dreams seem to predict a lot of things that are going to happen. Things for me that happen seem to have happened before but then i realize i must of had a dream about this before. Hope you all the luck in having good dreams about your mom.
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